Regulars: Certainty or Pure Hell?
A regular client sounds like a win.
Steady money, no guessing, you know what to expect.
And it feels even more valuable when you know you want to quit one day - when it’s part of your exit plan.
But is it really that simple?
Or can this “certainty” become the very thing that keeps you stuck somewhere you no longer want to be?
Regulars.
That’s what we call them in escort slang.
A regular sees you more often and you know each other better.
You have your terms set, and he’s someone you can count on if other work doesn’t show up or if you’re short on money.
But regulars have their downsides too.
Not all of them - but some of them eventually reveal who they really are.
You know exactly what I mean.
So… is it actually good to keep a regular?
Or not?
That’s what we’ll look at today.
We’ll go through why regulars can be beneficial, what to watch out for, which ones to keep and which ones you should absolutely end the cooperation with.
You probably met him through an agency or another girl passed him to you and he wanted to see you again.
Maybe he even wants to see only you now, not her.
Maybe he didn’t expect to like you this much - he planned a one-time thing, but he took your number, and suddenly he became “your regular”.
Like I said, regulars can be great, because some of them are very predictable - how often they want to meet, when, and how much money you can expect.
Of course, nothing is certain until it’s actually confirmed and you have the money in your hand, but you know what I mean.
So you know how much more you need to earn, who you can count on, and who you can’t - and you can make a plan.
But what happened to me - and probably to you as well, is that not every regular is a good one and sometimes it’s simply better to end it.
Often it starts with him being kinda fine.
Maybe he doesn’t pay as much, but he’s chill, easygoing and not demanding.
It feels balanced because you know him well.
But over time…
He gets more intrusive.
He starts negotiating money.
Or worse - he wants to see you for free.
His demands grow.
His respect shrinks.
He becomes more annoying, more entitled, more disrespectful.
Yes.
That’s the reality with some regulars.
At first, they seem good.
And then it flips.
Having regulars is convenient because with the agency, you never know who will show up, how old he is, what he wants, what he’ll expect, whether you will like him or not.
A regular feels like a safer option.
And that’s why it’s easy to tolerate things you don’t actually want - because “he’s a regular”, because he’s a predictable source of money, because he feels like stability.
But if he starts crossing your boundaries, treating you worse over time, negotiating, pushing, disrespecting…
Those are very clear reasons to end it immediately.
Nothing is worth lowering yourself.
Nothing is worth going against yourself.
Nothing is worth accepting less than your minimum - not even by a regular.
Your standards matter.
Your self-respect matters.
At least in this part of your life, until you can leave escort fully.
Yes, agency work isn’t stable.
And yes, sometimes a disrespectful regular may seem better than a completely unknown client from the agency who might be worse.
I get that.
But both are unacceptable.
Don’t live in fear of “not having clients”.
Have a plan and have self-respect.
Think about what is the lesser evil.
Raise your prices where you can, so you can say no to the regulars you no longer want.
There is always a solution.
Start valuing yourself enough to end regulars who cross your boundaries, disrespect you, pay too little, or make you feel undervalued, even if it means your income might drop for a moment.
It’s not worth it feeling unappreciated.
It’s not worth it being treated like you don’t matter.
It’s not worth it losing respect for yourself.
Notice how each regular treats you.
Do a revision.
Decide who stays and who doesn’t.
Or who needs new terms - like a higher rate.
You are not anyone’s rag.
Not even for a regular.
He doesn’t get special privileges just because he is a regular - even though some try.
“I will see you once a month, so I want this and that and I will pay you this much.”
Just that much?
“Yes, but you will have it every month.”
No.
Be firm about your minimum.
You know exactly what feels okay and what doesn’t.
My price changed over time too.
And eventually, I reached a point where I simply wouldn’t go for a certain amount anymore.
Not out of arrogance, but out of integrity.
Out of self-worth.
That’s why one of the key elements of leaving escort is self-worth.
I will talk more about that in one of the upcoming articles - how to build it even before you leave escort and how to use it for your benefit.
Maybe you feel it too, that tightness in your chest when he texts you.
The moment your body reacts before your mind does.
That’s a signal.
And the more you listen, the clearer everything becomes.
A regular never means that you lower your standards.
He never gets different treatment just because he is consistent.
Don’t lower yourself.
Respect yourself.
Always.
If this article made something inside you tighten, open or finally make sense, stay with that feeling for a moment.
Your body always speaks first.
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